{"id":213,"date":"2015-08-04T20:15:14","date_gmt":"2015-08-04T17:15:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/?p=213"},"modified":"2016-07-20T22:53:01","modified_gmt":"2016-07-20T19:53:01","slug":"usturuplu-dream-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/random-stuff\/usturuplu-dream-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Usturuplu Dream On"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta T\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019ye \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermeyi destekleyen biri olarak T\u00fcrk\u00e7e kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmayan, yerine ne koysan\u0131z dolmayan baz\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli kavramlar\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7ekmekteyim. Bunlardan biri de psikolojinin temel konular\u0131ndan biri olan, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc anlamam\u0131z\u0131n ve bazen de akl\u0131m\u0131zdakini g\u00f6rmemizin en b\u00fcy\u00fck sebebi: Perception<br \/>\nTranslate amca perception i\u00e7in \u201calg\u0131\u201d demi\u015f. Ama \u2018perception\u2019 bence alg\u0131dan \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131. Bir \u015feyi g\u00f6rmek istedi\u011finiz gibi g\u00f6rmek ile g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn sizi \u015fekillendirmesi aras\u0131nda ince bir \u00e7izgi ve asl\u0131nda hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n da b\u00fcy\u00fck bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc. Neden mi?<\/p>\n<p>Bu g\u00fcnlerde kafay\u0131 Silikon Vadisi \u015firketlerine takm\u0131\u015f durumday\u0131m, bu kadar yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k kaynayan bir yerin \u00e7ekici olmamas\u0131 zaten imkans\u0131z. Saatlerce vadi haberlerini okuyor, vadi insanlar\u0131n\u0131n r\u00f6portajlar\u0131n\u0131 izliyordum, nas\u0131l olduysa t\u0131klaya t\u0131klaya hi\u00e7 beklemedi\u011fim birinin r\u00f6portaj\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ma: Priscilla Chan\u2019in. Ya da Priscilla Chan Zuckerburg desem daha tan\u0131d\u0131k olur belki. Silikon Vadisi\u2019nin \u201ciron throne\u201du Facebook\u2019un kurucu CEO\u2019su Mark Zuckerburg\u2019\u00fcn m\u00fcstakbel e\u015fi oluyor kendileri.<\/p>\n<p>Priscilla ile Harvard\u2019da tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f Zuckerburg, Sosyal A\u011f filmini izlediyseniz bo\u015funa tekrar d\u00f6nmeyin filme, ili\u015fkileri bu filmde anlat\u0131lm\u0131yor. Priscilla Chan\u2019in anne babas\u0131 \u00c7in\u2019den Amerika\u2019ya g\u00f6\u00e7m\u00fc\u015f, zekas\u0131 ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck olas\u0131l\u0131kla hayli fazla olan bu tatl\u0131 han\u0131mefendi Harvard t\u0131p mezunu, idealistik bir pediatri doktoru. R\u00f6portaj\u0131 izlerken d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak gerekirse Priscilla\u2019ya imrenmemek imkans\u0131z geliyordu bana. Ki\u015fisel ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 bile pek \u00e7ok insan\u0131n r\u00fcyalar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcsleyecekken d\u00fcnyan\u0131n ve teknoloji camias\u0131n\u0131n en pop\u00fcler isimlerinden birinin kalbini \u00e7alm\u0131\u015f olman\u0131n ne kadar haval\u0131 oldu\u011funu \u00e7ok ki\u015fi inkar etmez san\u0131yorum. Ben bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere dalm\u0131\u015fken program\u0131n sunucusu Priscilla\u2019ya i\u00e7imdeki sese terc\u00fcman olarak \u201cSilikon Vadisi\u2019nin Kate Middleton\u2019\u0131 olarak tabir edilmesiyle\u201d ilgili g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerini sorunca kendisi ka\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 kald\u0131rarak \u015f\u00f6yle dedi: \u201cBu benim kendimi g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm ki\u015fi de\u011fil, ben kendimi \u00e7ocuklarla ve doktorlarla bir arada \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak \u00f6\u011frenme yolunda ilerleyen biri olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_2574\" style=\"width: 235px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/myweb.sabanciuniv.edu\/suchas\/files\/2015\/08\/mark-zuckerberg-1-300x400.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2574\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2574\" src=\"http:\/\/myweb.sabanciuniv.edu\/suchas\/files\/2015\/08\/mark-zuckerberg-1-300x400-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"Mark ve Priscilla, \u00e7ok samimi bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme ile poz vermi\u015fler.\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-2574\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Mark ve Priscilla, \u00e7ok samimi bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme ile poz vermi\u015fler.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>O an fark ettim ki Priscilla gibi olmay\u0131 istemek ve Priscilla olmak aras\u0131nda \u00e7ok ama \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck fark vard\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>\u2018Perception\u2019, zengin-fakir, ya\u015fl\u0131-gen\u00e7 ay\u0131rmadan her insan\u0131n do\u011fas\u0131nda olan ve hayat gayelerimizi \u00fczerine kurdu\u011fumuz bir par\u00e7am\u0131z. Bug\u00fcn hi\u00e7birimizin hayat\u0131 uzaktan insanlar\u0131n bizi g\u00f6r\u00fcnce yarg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi de\u011fil, hepsine \u201cuzaktan \u00f6yle g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor.\u201d \u201csen \u00f6yle san.\u201d gibi cevaplar\u0131m\u0131z var, hepsinin \u2018perception\u2019\u0131na yani. Ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde bizim perception\u2019lar\u0131m\u0131zdan yans\u0131yan en berbat senaryolar da asl\u0131nda o kadar k\u00f6t\u00fc, en toz pembe senaryolar da asl\u0131nda o kadar matah de\u011fil.<\/p>\n<p>Peki bu sundu\u011fum zavall\u0131 bilgi par\u00e7as\u0131 hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n neresinde kullan\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olacak? \u0130nsanlara \u00f6zenmek k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey ve bundan nas\u0131l sak\u0131naca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za dair bir erdem mi satmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum? Ya da asl\u0131nda daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 istemeyi kesip Buda felsefesini benimsemeye do\u011fru bir yol mu \u00e7iziyorum? Anlatmak istedi\u011fim bunlar\u0131n hi\u00e7biri de\u011fil. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n hayatta bir sonraki g\u00fcne devam edebilmesinin temeli \u201cdaha\u201d bir \u015fey olmaya dayan\u0131yor: daha ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131, daha mutlu, daha zengin, daha pop\u00fcler, ailesiyle daha \u00e7ok zaman ge\u00e7irmi\u015f, daha fazla \u00fclke g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f&#8230;Bunu istemekte hi\u00e7bir yanl\u0131\u015f taraf yok fakat her biri u\u011fra\u015f isteyen bu ulvi ama\u00e7lar\u0131n yolunda bo\u015funa ter d\u00f6kmekte yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015feyler var. \u0130stedi\u011fimiz sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n ve bu sonu\u00e7lara giden yollar\u0131n yaln\u0131zca izd\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmleriyle karar vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Bazen asl\u0131nda t\u00fcm ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdayken saklamay\u0131 se\u00e7iyor, bazen de ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden a\u00e7g\u00f6zl\u00fcce sonuca odaklan\u0131yoruz. \u00c7ok zengin olmay\u0131 m\u0131 hedeflediniz? Size Rahmi Ko\u00e7\u2019un a\u011fz\u0131ndan bizzat duydu\u011fum bir \u015feyler s\u00f6yleyeyim. Ona \u201cPek \u00e7ok insan kafas\u0131n\u0131 yast\u0131\u011fa koyunca sizin sahip oldu\u011funuz \u015feyleri hayal ediyor. Siz ne hayal ediyorsunuz?\u201d diye sorunca \u201cHayat\u0131m boyunca isterdim ki kafama g\u00f6re s\u0131rt \u00e7antam\u0131 al\u0131p gezeyim. \u015eimdi a\u00e7\u0131p baksan\u0131z benim gelecek sene bu ak\u015fam kimle yemek yiyece\u011fim bile yaz\u0131l\u0131p \u00e7izilmi\u015ftir. \u00dczerimizde bunca insan\u0131n sorumlulu\u011fu var, ben her gece bu sorumlulu\u011fa lay\u0131k olmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm.\u201d demi\u015fti. Rahmi Ko\u00e7 gibi d\u00fcnyay\u0131 yat ile gezmeyi hayal etmekte ay\u0131p bir \u015fey yok ama bu yolda kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan engellere s\u00f6ylenmekte, pes etmekte, risk almak ve eli ta\u015f\u0131n alt\u0131na koymaya \u00e7ekinmekte b\u00fcy\u00fck s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 var. Her \u015fey bedeliyle gelir evet ama bu \u201cperception\u201d lar insanlar ile \u00f6yle bir g\u00fczel evrimle\u015fmi\u015f ki kendinizi hangi resme yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rsan\u0131z \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n renkleri en g\u00fczellerinden se\u00e7iyor, fig\u00fcrleri kusursuzca yan\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7iziveriyor. Silikon Vadisi\u2019nin Kate Middleton\u2019\u0131 olmak, uzaktan davulun sesi gibi kula\u011fa ho\u015f geliyor. Fakat Priscilla Chan \u00f6nce bu g\u00f6z\u00fc kara ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan insanlarla hayat\u0131n\u0131 kesi\u015ftirecek yollara girebilmek i\u00e7in Harvard\u2019a kabul edilmi\u015f. Muhtemelen yine bu kararl\u0131 insanlar\u0131n be\u011fenisini kazanacak \u015fekilde komik ve zeki cevaplar vermeyi de her g\u00fcn geli\u015ftirdi\u011fi entelekt\u00fcel birikimine bor\u00e7lu. Ve \u015fimdi de d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en gen\u00e7 milyardelerinden biri olman\u0131n akl\u0131m\u0131za getirdi\u011fi vur patlas\u0131n \u00e7al oynas\u0131n hayat\u0131 de\u011fil, buraya gelene kadar kat etti\u011finin daha \u00f6tesindeki ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 koval\u0131yor.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/myweb.sabanciuniv.edu\/suchas\/files\/2015\/08\/perception.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-2576\" src=\"http:\/\/myweb.sabanciuniv.edu\/suchas\/files\/2015\/08\/perception-300x260.png\" alt=\"perception\" width=\"300\" height=\"260\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00d6nyarg\u0131, ki\u015fileri s\u0131n\u0131fland\u0131rmak, negatif-pozitif enerji alma durumlar\u0131 ve Einstein\u2019\u0131n bir zamanlar gerizekal\u0131 san\u0131lmas\u0131 perception\u2019\u0131n g\u00fcnl\u00fck ili\u015fkilerimizdeki yans\u0131mas\u0131. Bunu a\u015fmak i\u00e7in ne gibi y\u00f6ntemler var daha ara\u015ft\u0131rmam laz\u0131m san\u0131r\u0131m, ben de hala yenebilmi\u015f de\u011filim \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc. Ama olaylara kar\u015f\u0131 perception\u2019\u0131 yenmek pratiklenebilen, ruha son derece iyi gelen bir \u015fey. \u015eimdi gelece\u011fe dair planlar\u0131m\u0131 yaparken, insanlar\u0131 rol modeli al\u0131rken, k\u0131skan\u0131rken veya k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmserken hayalimde can bulan ilk resme ba\u011fl\u0131 kalm\u0131yorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7e\u011fin hi\u00e7bir zaman \u201ctam da \u00f6yle\u201d olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyorum. Bu biraz frenlemeye yol a\u00e7\u0131yor, biraz vazge\u00e7meye ama en g\u00fczeli insan\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmesini sa\u011fl\u0131yor. \u0130nsan\u0131n naz\u0131 kendine \u00e7ok ge\u00e7er, kaprislerle beslenen perception\u2019\u0131 adam etmek belki de b\u00fcy\u00fck filozoflar\u0131n, yeminli ve g\u00fclery\u00fczl\u00fc ke\u015fi\u015flerin en b\u00fcy\u00fck erdemidir.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eimdi literat\u00fcrdeki onca\u201dDream on\u201d k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn z\u0131tt\u0131 bir \u015feyler anlatm\u0131\u015f gibi mi oldum? Hay\u0131r. Ben sadece bir kelime ekliyorum buraya, \u201cUsturuplu dream on.\u201d \u201cYaln\u0131zca g\u00fcl\u00fc de\u011fil dikeni de dream on.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Herkese terbiyeli perception\u2019lar diliyorum \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p>Beng\u00fcsu<\/p>\n<p>Not: Bu yaz\u0131y\u0131 yazmam\u0131n akabinindeki g\u00fcn Zuckerburg \u00e7iftinin bir k\u0131z bebek bekledi\u011fini okudum. Mark Zuckerburg ki\u015fisel hesab\u0131nda bunu duyururken daha \u00f6nce d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131na fakat zorluklar\u0131n ve g\u00fczelliklerin payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n ne kadar \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funa dair g\u00fczel bir yaz\u0131 payla\u015fm\u0131\u015f. K\u0131rk y\u0131ll\u0131k arkada\u015flar\u0131mm\u0131\u015f gibi bir sevinmedir ald\u0131 beni, en g\u00fczel dilekler onlarla olsun \ud83d\ude42<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta T\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019ye \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermeyi destekleyen biri olarak T\u00fcrk\u00e7e kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmayan, yerine ne koysan\u0131z dolmayan baz\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli kavramlar\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7ekmekteyim. Bunlardan biri de psikolojinin temel konular\u0131ndan biri olan, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc anlamam\u0131z\u0131n ve bazen de akl\u0131m\u0131zdakini g\u00f6rmemizin en b\u00fcy\u00fck sebebi: Perception Translate amca perception i\u00e7in \u201calg\u0131\u201d demi\u015f. Ama \u2018perception\u2019 bence alg\u0131dan \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131. Bir \u015feyi g\u00f6rmek istedi\u011finiz gibi g\u00f6rmek ile g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn sizi \u015fekillendirmesi aras\u0131nda ince bir \u00e7izgi ve asl\u0131nda hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n da b\u00fcy\u00fck bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc. Neden mi? Bu g\u00fcnlerde kafay\u0131 Silikon Vadisi \u015firketlerine takm\u0131\u015f durumday\u0131m, bu kadar yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k kaynayan bir yerin \u00e7ekici olmamas\u0131 zaten imkans\u0131z. Saatlerce vadi haberlerini okuyor, vadi insanlar\u0131n\u0131n r\u00f6portajlar\u0131n\u0131 izliyordum, nas\u0131l olduysa t\u0131klaya t\u0131klaya hi\u00e7 beklemedi\u011fim birinin r\u00f6portaj\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ma: Priscilla Chan\u2019in. Ya da Priscilla Chan Zuckerburg desem daha tan\u0131d\u0131k olur belki. Silikon Vadisi\u2019nin \u201ciron throne\u201du Facebook\u2019un kurucu CEO\u2019su Mark Zuckerburg\u2019\u00fcn m\u00fcstakbel e\u015fi oluyor kendileri. Priscilla ile Harvard\u2019da tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f Zuckerburg, Sosyal A\u011f filmini izlediyseniz bo\u015funa tekrar d\u00f6nmeyin filme, ili\u015fkileri bu filmde anlat\u0131lm\u0131yor. Priscilla Chan\u2019in anne babas\u0131 \u00c7in\u2019den Amerika\u2019ya g\u00f6\u00e7m\u00fc\u015f, zekas\u0131 ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck olas\u0131l\u0131kla hayli fazla olan bu tatl\u0131 han\u0131mefendi Harvard t\u0131p mezunu, idealistik bir pediatri doktoru. R\u00f6portaj\u0131 izlerken d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak gerekirse Priscilla\u2019ya imrenmemek imkans\u0131z geliyordu bana. Ki\u015fisel ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 bile pek \u00e7ok insan\u0131n r\u00fcyalar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcsleyecekken d\u00fcnyan\u0131n ve [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":214,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_stc_notifier_status":"sent","_stc_notifier_sent_time":"2023-05-09 00:46:00","_stc_notifier_request":false,"_stc_notifier_prevent":false,"_stc_subscriber_keywords":"","_stc_subscriber_search_areas":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-213","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-random-stuff"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/213"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=213"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/213\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":215,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/213\/revisions\/215"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/214"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=213"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=213"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bengusuozcan.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=213"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}